Deb Caletti Love Quotes and Sayings
2. It’s strange, isn’t it, how the idea of belonging to someone can sound so great? It can be comforting, the way it makes things decided. We like the thought of being held, until it’s too tight. We like that certainty, until it means there’s no way out. And we like being his, until we realize we’re not ours anymore.
3. Sometimes love is a surprise, an instant of recognition, a sudden gift at a sudden moment that makes everything different from then on. Some people will say that’s not love, that you can’t really love someone you don’t know. But, I’m not so sure. Love doesn’t seem to follow a plan; it’s not a series of steps. It can hit with the force of nature – an earthquake, a tidal wave, a storm of wild relentless energy that is beyond your simple attempts at control.
4. I used to think that finding the right one was about the man having a list of certain qualities. If he has them, we’d be compatible and happy. Sort of a checkmark system that was a complete failure. But I found out that a healthy relationship isn’t so much about sense of humor or intelligence or attractive. It’s about avoiding partners with harmful traits and personality types. And then it’s about being with a good person. A good person on his own, and a good person with you. Where the space between you feels uncomplicated and happy. A good relationship is where things just work. They work because, whatever the list of qualities, whatever the reason, you happen to be really, really good together.
5. I shouldn’t have to be a liar to make someone love me. I shouldn’t be so afraid of losing someone that I’ll do anything to make them stay.
6. This is what I know. Don’t settle for 40, 50, or even 80 percent. A relationship-it shouldn’t be too small or too tight or even a little scratchy. It shouldn’t take up space in your closet out of guilty conscience or convenience or a moment of desire. Do you hear me? It should be perfect for you. It should be lasting. Wait. wait for 100 percent.
7. Those questions you have? Whether he’s the one, whether you feel about him the way you should, or whether the relationship is going okay? When you’re not sure whether you’re in love with someone or not, the answer is not.
Excerpt from Wikipedia: Deb Caletti is an American writer of young adult fiction. Caletti is a National Book Award finalist, as well as the recipient of other numerous awards including PEN USA finalist award, the Washington State Book Award, and SLJ Best Book award. Caletti’s books feature the Pacific Northwest, and are popular for tackling difficult issues typically reserved for adult fiction. Her first adult fiction novel, “He’s Gone”, will be published by Random House in 2013. She currently resides in Seattle, Washington.
Sayings by Deb Caletti
1. It was one of those times you feel a sense of loss, even though you didn’t have something in the first place. I guess that’s what disappointment is- a sense of loss for something you never had.
2. It made me wonder how many times we forgive just because we don’t want to lose someone, even if they don’t deserve our forgiveness.
3. The loneliness you feel with another person, the wrong person, is the loneliest of all.
4. If letting go, if letting people and things work themselves out in the way that they needed to without your help was the most important thing, then it was also the hardest.
5. I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay.
6. We should not give away a moment to anyone who does not deserve it.
7. The six rules of maybe:
1. Respect the power of hope and possibilities. Begin with belief. Hold onto it.
2. If you known where you want to go, you’re already half way there. Know what you desire but, more importantly, why you desire it. Then go.
3. Hopes and dreams and heart’s desires require a clear path-get out of your own way.
4. Place hope carefully in your own hands and in the hands of others.
5. Persist, if necessary.
6. That said, most importantly – know when you’ve reached an end, Quit, give up, do it with courage. Giving up is not failing – it’s the chance to begin again.
8. I finally learned that it was all right to say something wasn’t working for me when it wasn’t working. The world doesn’t come crashing down when you speak the truth.
9. Maybe we all just wanted someone to believe in. That’s all each of us wanted, and it should be so simple, but it never was simple.
10. Sometimes that’s all you need. To know it’s not broken. To know you’re still whole and that you’ll heal.