Leo Buscaglia Love Quotes and Sayings
2. Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly, and without expectation … We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.
3. Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
4. The heart is the place where we live our passions. It is frail and easily broken, but wonderfully resilient. There is no point in trying to deceive the heart. It depends upon our honesty for its survival.
#5-7 Speaking Of Love, 1980
5. Don’t miss love. It’s an incredible gift. I love to think that the day you’re born, you’re given the world as your birthday present. It frightens me to think that so few people even bother to open up the ribbon! Rip it open! Tear off the top! It’s just full of love and magic and joy and wonder and pain and tears. All of the things that are your gift for being human.
6. The loving person is the person who loves him or herself. I say this so often, and people say, “Oh yes, you’re so right,” but they don’t do it! You will never be able to love anyone else until you love yourself. Even With your Fat Thighs!
7. Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.
8. Relish love in your old age! Aged love is like aged wine; it becomes more satisfying, more refreshing, more valuable, more appreciated and more intoxicating!
9. Don’t brood. Get on with living and loving. You don’t have forever.
10. Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.
11. What love we’ve given, we’ll have forever. What love we fail to give, will be lost for all eternity.
12. Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
13. The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
14. A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself – to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.
15. Love is not a thing, it is not lost when given. You can offer your love completely to hundreds of people and still retain the same love you had originally.
16. To love others you must first love yourself.
17. Most of us remain strangers to ourselves, hiding who we are, and ask other strangers, hiding who they are, to love us.
18. When we give ourselves in love we become our most vulnerable. We are never safe. We become open to disappointment and hurt.
19. There comes a time in some relationships when no matter how sincere the attempt to reconcile the differences or how strong the wish to recreate a part of the past once shared, the struggle becomes so painful that nothing else is felt and the world and all its beauty only add to the discomfort by providing cruel contrast.
20. When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity – in freedom.
21. Loving relationships, though necessary for life, health, and growth, are among the most complicated skills. Before we can be successful at achieving relationships, it is necessary that we broaden our understanding of how they work, what they mean and how what we do and believe can enhance or destroy them. We can accomplish this only if we are willing to put in the energy and take the time to study failed relationships as well as examine successful ones. Loving relationships cannot be taken lightly. Unless we are looking for pain, they must not be forever approached in a trial and error fashion. Too many of us have experienced the cost of these lackadaisical approaches in terms of tears, confusion and guilt.
22. We treat our encounters with them with carefree casualness. We are certain that our relationships will naturally take care of themselves.
23. What we need to know about loving is no great mystery. We all know what constitutes loving behavior; we need but act upon it, not continually question it. Over-analysis often confuses the issue and in the end brings us no closer to insight. We sometimes become too busy classifying, separating, and examining, to remember that love is easy. It’s we who make it complicated.
#24-27 Love, 1972
24. To love oneself is to struggle to rediscover and maintain your uniqueness. It is understanding and appreciating the idea that you will be the only you to ever live upon this earth, that when you die so will all of your fantastic possibilities. It is the realization that even you are not totally aware of the wonders which lie dormant within yourself.
25. A total immersion in life offers the best classroom for learning to love.
26. One does not fall “in” or “out” of love. One grows in love.
27. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
#28-29 A Magazine of People and Possibilities interview
28. I have learned that love is the most powerful force available to us. When we have real love we have the strength to perform miracles.
29. The essence of love is getting out of oneself and into others. When we care less about our feelings, our rights, our happiness, our security, etc., and begin to concern ourselves with the feelings, rights, happiness, and security of others, we will have found the true power of love.
#30 Living, Loving & Learning, 1985
30. To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risks must be taken, because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
#30 Born for Love: Reflections on Loving, 1994
31. It is when we ask for love less and begin giving it more that the basis of human love is revealed to us.
32. I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.
33. Happiness and love are just a choice away.
34. Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time… It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.
Excerpt from Wikipedia: Felice Leonardo “Leo” Buscaglia PhD (March 31, 1924 – June 12, 1998), also known as “Dr. Love,” was an American author and motivational speaker, and a professor in the Department of Special Education at the University of Southern California.
Sayings by Leo Buscaglia
1. A single rose can be my garden … a single friend, my world.
2. Change is the end result of all true learning.
3. Don’t smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.
4. Those who think they know it all have no way of finding out they don’t.
5. I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things… I play with leaves. I skip down the street and run against the wind.
6. I’ve always thought that people need to feel good about themselves and I see my role as offering support to them, to provide some light along the way.
7. If I don’t have wisdom, I can teach you only ignorance.
8. If we wish to free ourselves from enslavement, we must choose freedom and the responsibility this entails.
9. It is paradoxical that many educators and parents still differentiate between a time for learning and a time for play without seeing the vital connection between them.
10. Life lived for tomorrow will always be just a day away from being realized.
11. Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyze your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.
12. Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.
13. The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that position.
14. The fact that I can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another’s, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, are to me continual spiritual exercises.
15. We are no longer puppets being manipulated by outside powerful forces: we become the powerful force ourselves.
16. What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life.
17. Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.
18. Bearing grudges only hurts you. Forgiveness forgives you, releases you.
19. There are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our encouragement, who will need our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give.
#20 Speaking of Love, 1980
20. The hardest battle you’re ever going to fight is the battle to be just you.
21. If you don’t like the scene you’re in, if you’re unhappy, if you’re lonely, if you don’t feel that things are happening, change your scene. Paint a new backdrop.
22. Don’t spend your precious time asking “Why isn’t the world a better place?” It will only be time wasted. The question to ask is “How can I make it better?” To that there is an answer.
23. Life is a paradise for those who love many things with a passion.
24. You are the only you … You are the best you. You will always be the second best anyone else.
25. The most unfortunate thing that happens to a person who fears failure is that he limits himself by becoming afraid to try anything new.
#26-27 Love, 1972
26. It’s not enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something. May I suggest that it be creating joy for others, sharing what we have for the betterment of personkind, bringing hope to the lost and love to the lonely.
27. This loving person is a person who abhors waste — waste of time, waste of human potential. How much time we waste. As if we were going to live forever.
28. Live now. When you are eating, eat. When you are loving, love. when you are talking with someone, talk. When you are looking at a flower, look. Catch the beauty of the moment!
29. Don’t walk in my head with your dirty feet.
#30-31 Living, Loving & Learning, 1985
30. I exist, I am, I am here, I am becoming, I make my own life and no one else makes it for me. I must face my own shortcomings, mistakes, transgressions. No one can suffer my non-being as I do, but tomorrow is another day, and I must decide to leave my bed and live again. And if I fail, I don’t have the comfort of blaming you or life or God.
31. I believe that you control your destiny, that you can be what you want to be. You can also stop and say, No, I won’t do it, I won’t behave this way anymore. I’m lonely and I need people around me, maybe I have to change my methods of behaving and then you do it.
32. A wonderful realization will be the day you realize that you are unique in all the world. There is nothing that is an accident. You are a special combination for a purpose — and don’t let them tell you otherwise, even if they tell you that purpose is an illusion. (Live an illusion if you have to). You are that combination so that you can do what is essential for you to do. Don’t ever believe that you have nothing to contribute. The world is an incredibly unfulfilled tapestry. And only you can fulfill that tiny space that is yours.
33. Time has no meaning in itself unless we choose to give it significance.
34. Each of our acts makes a statement as to our purpose.
35. Life is uncharted territory. It reveals its story one moment at a time.
36. After all, the wrong is done. It is past and cannot be changed. We have only the present and the future upon which to move forward.
37. We created time, and now we have become the slave of time.
38. Every moment spent in unhappiness is a moment of happiness lost.
39. Man is happiest when he is creating. In fact, the highest state of which man is capable lies in the creative act.
40. We will only begin to forgive when we can look upon the wrongdoers as ourselves, neither better nor worse. We need to remember that we coexist as mortals in the world, together, the wronged and the wrongdoer, and that, in our common humanity, the situation could readily be reversed.
41. Don’t envy anyone. You are the magic.
42. There are two big forces at work, external and internal. We have very little control over external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control.