Eleanor Roosevelt love quotes and Sayings
#1-2 My Day (1935–1962), Her daily newspaper column
1. It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death. (1 April 1939)
2. One of the blessings of age is to learn not to part on a note of sharpness, to treasure the moments spent with those we love, and to make them whenever possible good to remember, for time is short. (5 February 1943)
Excerpt from Wikipedia: Anna Eleanor Roosevelt (October 11, 1884 – November 7, 1962) was the First Lady of the United States from 1933 to 1945. She supported the New Deal policies of her husband, Franklin D. Roosevelt, and assumed a role as an advocate for civil rights. After her husband’s death in 1945, Roosevelt continued to be an internationally prominent author, speaker, politician, and activist for the New Deal coalition. She worked to enhance the status of working women, although she opposed the Equal Rights Amendment because she believed it would adversely affect women.
Sayings by Eleanor Roosevelt
#1 Eleanor Roosevelt, Volume 2: The Defining Years, 1933-1938, Blanche Wiesen Cook, Penguin, 1 June 2000
1. I believe that anyone who thinks must think of the next war as they would of suicide.
#2 This is My Story, Page 363, Harper & Brothers, 1937
2. Autobiographies are, after all, only useful as the lives you read about and analyze may suggest to you something that you may find useful in your own journey through life.
#3 How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1944; 1948), Dale Carnegie
3. Do what you feel in your heart to be right — for you’ll be criticized anyway. You’ll be “damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.”
#4-6 You Learn by Living (1960)
4. And the purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. (Foreword, January 1960)
5. In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility. (Foreword, January 1960)
6. For freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. With freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry his own weight, this is a frightening prospect. (Page 152)
#7 Book of common sense etiquette, Macmillan, 1962
7. Too many of us stay walled up because we are afraid of being hurt. We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all. (Page 16)
#8 Preface (December 1960) to The Autobiography of Eleanor Roosevelt, 1961, p. xvi
8. I learned something which has stood me in good stead many times—The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.
#9 Letter to Harry Truman, 22 March 1948
9. I cannot believe that war is the best solution. No one won the last war, and no one will win the next war.
#10-11 Tomorrow Is Now, 1963
10. There never has been security. No man has ever known what he would meet around the next corner; if life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor. (Page 80)
11. What we must learn to do is to create unbreakable bonds between the sciences and the humanities. We cannot procrastinate. The world of the future is in our making. Tomorrow is now. (Page 134)
#12 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 15 June 1946
12. It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself. [S]
#13 Voice of America broadcast, 11 November 1951
13. It isn’t enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it. One must work at it.
#14 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 20 February 1936
14. A little simplification would be the first step towards rational living, I think. [S]
#15 Letter to Mr. Horne, 19 February 1960
15. When you cease to make a contribution, you begin to die.
#16 On The Universal Declaration of Human Rights by Hillary Rodham Clinton in Issues of Democracy Vol. 3, No. 3 (October 1998), p. 11
16. When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?
#17 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt 14 January 1942
17. Long ago, I made up my mind that, when things were said involving only me, I would pay no attention to them, except when valid criticism was carried by which I could profit. [S]
#18-19 You Learn by Living, 1960, p. 29–30
18. You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”
19. Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product. Paradoxically, the one sure way not to be happy is deliberately to map out a way of life in which one would please oneself completely and exclusively.
#20 Love, Eleanor: Eleanor Roosevelt and Her Friends, Joseph P. Lash, Eleanor Roosevelt Doubleday, 1982
20. Make that decision primarily for yourself because you can never really live anyone else’s life not even your child’s. The influence you exert is through your own life & what you become yourself.
#21 The New York Times (1960), quoted in The Beacon Book of Quotations by Women, 1992, Rosalie Maggio, p. 156
21. We have to face the fact that either all of us are going to die together or we are going to learn to live together and if we are to live together we have to talk.
#22 The Eleanor Roosevelt Papers: The human rights years, 1949-1952, Eleanor Roosevelt, Allida Mae Black, University of Virginia Press, 2012
22. Anyone who knows history, particularly the history of Europe, will, I think, recognize that the domination of education or of government by any one particular religious faith is never a happy arrangement for the people.
#23 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 8 November 1944
23. Whatever happens, I feel that on the Democratic side the President has made a good fight; and in political life I have never felt that anything really mattered but the satisfaction of knowing that you stood for the things in which you believed, and had done the very best you could. [S]
#24 Sheroes: Bold, Brash, and Absolutely Unabashed Superwomen from Susan B. Anthony to Xena (1998) by Varla Ventura, p. 150
24. You get more joy out of the giving to others, and should put a good deal of thought into the happiness you are able to give.
#25 If You Ask Me: Essential Advice from Eleanor Roosevelt, Eleanor Roosevelt, Simon and Schuster, 9 October 2018
25. The kind of man who thinks that helping with the dishes is beneath him will also think that helping with the baby is beneath him, and then he certainly is not going to be a very successful father.
#26 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 23 February 1940
26. When life is too easy for us, we must beware or we may not be ready to meet the blows which sooner or later come to everyone, rich or poor. [S]
#27 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 2 August 1941
27. People grow through experiences, if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built and young people recognize this ability to grow in those with whom they come in contact. [S]
#28 Preface (December 1960) to The Autobiography of Eleanor Roosevelt, 1961, p. xix
28. Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.
#29 Mother and Daughter: The Letters of Eleanor and Anna Roosevelt, Eleanor Rroosevelt, Anna Roosevelt, Coward, McCann & Geoghegan, 1982
29. I’m so glad I never feel important, it does complicate life!
#30 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 20 December 1939
30. No writing has any real value which is not the expression of genuine thought and feeling. [S]
#31 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 15 April 1943
31. At all times, day by day, we have to continue fighting for freedom of religion, freedom of speech, freedom from fear, and freedom from want—for these are things that must be gained in peace as well as in war. [S]
#32 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 29 October 1947
32. In our country we must trust the people to hear and see both the good and the bad and to choose the good. [S]
#33-34 My Day, Eleanor Roosevelt, 20 December 1961
33. There is a widespread understanding among the people of this nation, and probably among the people of the world, that there is no safety except through the prevention of war.
34. As long as we are not actually destroyed, we can work to gain greater understanding of other peoples and to try to present to the peoples of the world the values of our own beliefs. We can do this by demonstrating our conviction that human life is worth preserving and that we are willing to help others to enjoy benefits of our civilization just as we have enjoyed it. [S]
Unsourced Quotes by Eleanor Roosevelt
1. The giving of love is an education in itself.
2. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
#3 Eleanor Roosevelt – Unleashed: A Life of Soul Searching and Self Discovery, Ann Atkins, 2011 – Biography & Autobiography
3. Friendship with ones self is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.
4. I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experience behind him.
5. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
6. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
7. A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it’s in hot water.
8. As for accomplishments, I just did what I had to do as things came along.
9. Only a man’s character is the real criterion of worth.
10. It seems to me of great importance to teach children respect for life. Towards this end, experiments on living animals in classrooms should be stopped. To encourage cruelty in the name of science can only destroy the finer emotions of affection and sympathy, and breed an unfeeling callousness in the young towards suffering in all living creatures.
11. Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, But beautiful old people are works of art.
12. Hate and force cannot be in just a part of the world without having an effect on the rest of it.
13. Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both.
Quotes incorrectly attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt
#1 William L. Watkinson: The Supreme Conquest and Other Sermons Preached in America
1. Yet is it far better to light the candle than to curse the darkness. – William L. Watkinson [S]